Sorry to hear that ! Take care. I would suggest Achilles' heel is better spelling. As to the big picture, it must have been great to have had rain after so long. Maybe one just has to look on the small benefits of our daily mundane existence, though without forgetting climate change and global warming and all its related disasters. There are many suffering starvation and violence in Central America !
haha, right you are! I knew there'd be something that spellcheck didn't catch.
Reflecting on my many blessings is a double-edged sword for me...it's a good thing to do, generally, and I make time to do it. But at least in my case it can spiral into a kind of self-hatred, like what is WRONG with you, there are people suffering for real and you're whining because someone was mad you got an assignment in a few hours late?? The only thing that "comforts" me about it is that if our roles were switched, they'd be doing the same as me, ha. Maybe it's just something about humans that we can never feel totally calm and satisfied.
Personally over the years, I've gained a ton from both Zen Buddhist meditation and A Course in Miracles. For the latter, I recommend just plunging into the lessons. If you try to read the text, it's pretty tough going and not necessary to get all the benefits. Even if you only do the first 30-75 exercises, you'll gain an amazing new perspective. It's all available for free on line. Go directly to the workbook for students: https://acim.org/acim/workbook/introduction/en/s/401?wid=toc&fwv=true
Best of luck. You can overcome this, though it could well take more time and work than you think.
I'll be using Mindfulness Meditation and Wim Hof Breathing to help with all forms of trauma with my self and my clients. The benefits of meditation are that it trains your mind to extricate itself from flight or fight mode, and into digest and rest mode. It becomes easier to calm down and stop the cycle of negative thoughts over time and practice, as you are developing a new neural pathways. So you are psychologically healing yourself via your physiology. We are not our thoughts, and thoughts need to be let go of - a basic premise to remember. There is a lot of psychoeducation that goes along with Buddhism, as it is not necessarily a religion per se, it is a practice and a way of life, as well. As far as breathing techniques, it is the quickest, best way to immediately de-stress and rejuvenate, and best for all forms of panic or deep depression, also affecting your Autonomic nervous system (ANS) directly and immediately. Over time, with practice, you strengthen your vagal nerve, and you are able to have augmented effects from your breathwork. Wim Hof baby, it's the jam (cringe! But true. I do it everyday to feel normal). Talk can only get you so far, and we need to physically process our trauma in this way to have it leave our body. Also read My Grandmothers Hands to learn about black/body white/body trauma, essential concepts. Lots of Compassion, for yourself and others is the key concept to healing as well. Well, I love learning about this, and so that's some basic stuff that is scientifically and traditionally proven to work, but support from others in these efforts goes a long way. Sending good wishes your way😊😊😊
Childhood Emotional Neglect is what you're describing. For whatever reason the parents cannot model how emotions are handled properly and they do not consider their child's emotions to be -- again for whatever reason -- legitimate. They either restrict the range of emotions allowed in the home -- my parents -- or they denigrate their child's emotions by negatively describing the child as being "too sensitive," or too needy et al. The parents don't even need to be mean in their behavior in policing this, they just need to consistently display neglect for the emotional aspects of their child's life.
You know, I'm so, so, so resistant to using the word "neglect" and my parents in the same sentence. I can recognize that some things were not ideal, but I just can't bring myself to put myself in the same category as someone who leaves their kid in the car for 3 hours to go into the movie theater or something, you know?
Sorry to hear that ! Take care. I would suggest Achilles' heel is better spelling. As to the big picture, it must have been great to have had rain after so long. Maybe one just has to look on the small benefits of our daily mundane existence, though without forgetting climate change and global warming and all its related disasters. There are many suffering starvation and violence in Central America !
haha, right you are! I knew there'd be something that spellcheck didn't catch.
Reflecting on my many blessings is a double-edged sword for me...it's a good thing to do, generally, and I make time to do it. But at least in my case it can spiral into a kind of self-hatred, like what is WRONG with you, there are people suffering for real and you're whining because someone was mad you got an assignment in a few hours late?? The only thing that "comforts" me about it is that if our roles were switched, they'd be doing the same as me, ha. Maybe it's just something about humans that we can never feel totally calm and satisfied.
Personally over the years, I've gained a ton from both Zen Buddhist meditation and A Course in Miracles. For the latter, I recommend just plunging into the lessons. If you try to read the text, it's pretty tough going and not necessary to get all the benefits. Even if you only do the first 30-75 exercises, you'll gain an amazing new perspective. It's all available for free on line. Go directly to the workbook for students: https://acim.org/acim/workbook/introduction/en/s/401?wid=toc&fwv=true
Best of luck. You can overcome this, though it could well take more time and work than you think.
Kim G
Roma Sur, CDMX
Thanks Kim, I will check them out!
I'll be using Mindfulness Meditation and Wim Hof Breathing to help with all forms of trauma with my self and my clients. The benefits of meditation are that it trains your mind to extricate itself from flight or fight mode, and into digest and rest mode. It becomes easier to calm down and stop the cycle of negative thoughts over time and practice, as you are developing a new neural pathways. So you are psychologically healing yourself via your physiology. We are not our thoughts, and thoughts need to be let go of - a basic premise to remember. There is a lot of psychoeducation that goes along with Buddhism, as it is not necessarily a religion per se, it is a practice and a way of life, as well. As far as breathing techniques, it is the quickest, best way to immediately de-stress and rejuvenate, and best for all forms of panic or deep depression, also affecting your Autonomic nervous system (ANS) directly and immediately. Over time, with practice, you strengthen your vagal nerve, and you are able to have augmented effects from your breathwork. Wim Hof baby, it's the jam (cringe! But true. I do it everyday to feel normal). Talk can only get you so far, and we need to physically process our trauma in this way to have it leave our body. Also read My Grandmothers Hands to learn about black/body white/body trauma, essential concepts. Lots of Compassion, for yourself and others is the key concept to healing as well. Well, I love learning about this, and so that's some basic stuff that is scientifically and traditionally proven to work, but support from others in these efforts goes a long way. Sending good wishes your way😊😊😊
Thanks, Julie! You've told me about it before and I just won't listen -- I'm cosmically waiting in line to start, I guess? (referring to Wim Hof here)
I can identify.
Childhood Emotional Neglect is what you're describing. For whatever reason the parents cannot model how emotions are handled properly and they do not consider their child's emotions to be -- again for whatever reason -- legitimate. They either restrict the range of emotions allowed in the home -- my parents -- or they denigrate their child's emotions by negatively describing the child as being "too sensitive," or too needy et al. The parents don't even need to be mean in their behavior in policing this, they just need to consistently display neglect for the emotional aspects of their child's life.
You know, I'm so, so, so resistant to using the word "neglect" and my parents in the same sentence. I can recognize that some things were not ideal, but I just can't bring myself to put myself in the same category as someone who leaves their kid in the car for 3 hours to go into the movie theater or something, you know?